Passion | Progress | Potential | Purpose
By Rosalee Pilling | 06/28/2020
Success is relative and can only be measured by individuals based on certain criteria that they set for themselves. For example, if you set a goal that you will exercise for an hour every morning before work for a week, and you did that, then you would have been successful. The thing is that there are some goals that are harder to meet, and require us to have some core principles in place to give ourselves the best advantage at being successful. This list is by no means exhausted.
Everyone has experiences that cause pain, and that pain teaches lessons, that if learned, leads to growth and understanding of self. People who know who they truly are have the advantage of making choices that they are least likely to regret. They have a good understanding of their belief system and their values, what they like; how they prefer to use their time; how to self-care; how to set healthy boundaries (saying no), and how to say yes when it aligns with their values without feeling guilty. People who know who they are go on to choose career paths that add value to others and to themselves, and are usually very satisfied with their choices. When you ask them who they are they can tell you in one sentence.
I have said it over and over again - we were all given gifts at birth for us to be successful in life. God does not make mistakes. He would not make us and not give us what we need to get the most out of this world. Like any gift that you receive, you have to open it and use it. Your gift is not the kind that you just put on a shelf and look at. It is the kind that you maximize, and put into action, so that it can bring you joy, peace, and prosperity. The other purpose for your gift is that it is supposed to connect you with other people by inspiring them, and giving them hope.
People who know who they are and have received their gifts are usually in a place of freedom of spirit and mind to the point where they choose to be vulnerable and tell their story. They are not afraid of what people may say, because they understand that the joy, peace, and prosperity that they enjoy comes from that story. They treasure their story, and see it as a blessing instead of something to be ashamed of. People who choose to become vulnerable and share their story do it knowing that their vulnerability can help to turn someone else’s fear into faith.
It is not easy to maintain a positive attitude and mindset when things seem to be going wrong and everything that you do seems useless. People who have turned their pain into power know that at this point they have to do what I call “Stop, take a break, and do something that does not relate,” because at this point if what you are doing is not working, then stop doing it. Take a break to rejuvenate, breathe and clear your thoughts, then do something that does not relate to what you are working on (watch a movie, take a walk, cook something, wash your hair etc.). This principle is a tough one because you have to draw on the values that we talked about in #1. So, if you don’t know who you are, you may make choices that add more angst and stress to what is already a stressful situation. They (your values) will be required to keep you positive. People who turn their pain into power will make the choice to stay positive no matter what.
People who have turned their pain into power have one thing in common: they know that they have little to no control over what happens outside of themselves. They do not internalize society’s constructs like who they should be, or what they should, or should not be doing (they already know who they are). They are in control of what goes through their portals (five senses), and are very conscious of when their spirit changes, so that they can draw on their self-management skills to mitigate any risk of prolonged stress.
People who turn their pain into power are very open-minded, and are typically ready to view things from different perspectives to get the best outcome. They accept that failure is a part of the process of building a successful life, or being successful at meeting their goals, and they use it as an opportunity to learn and advance.
People who turn their pain into power are realistic about possessions, relationships, health, death - all the big ticket items. They know that everything is temporary, things come and go; people come and go, and while they bring happiness, they cannot give lasting joy, and peace. They know the secret to lasting joy and peace, and how to keep them even when they have lost everything.
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